- Hardback book by Lilly S. Routtenberg and Ruth R. Seldin
- First Edition
- Copyright 1967 by Lilly S. Routtenberg and Ruth R. Seldin
" This is the first book of its kind - a much needed book, and one that should become the standard on Jewish weddings. "
" The authors, wife and daughter of a prominent rabbi, have gone deep into the sources of Judaic laws and customs to bring to the modern American-Jewish bride and groom an understanding of the rituals of their wedding.
In the preface the authors say, "It is our intention to clear up the confusion and misunderstandings that exist concerning the wedding, particularly those concepts relating to Jewish rituals and practice."
This they have done - with propriety and adroitness. "
" The varying customs practiced by Jews around the world would fill a huge compendium of folklore, but the core of the wedding ritual remains the same for all Jews.
In this book the authors have taken into account the three major divisions of American Jewry - Reform, Orthodox, and Conservative - and have fully explained the practices of all.
Some of the observances date back to Biblical times, while others have been adopted through the centuries as time, conditions, and place decreed.
Here you will learn how the sacred qualities of both the old and new are blended for today's wedding.
And you will learn the meaning of such rituals as veiling the bride, breaking the glass, immersion for the bride, and fasting on the wedding day. "
" Every detail involved in every type of wedding is thoroughly covered: the formal and the informal, the large and the small, the hotel, the synagogue, the home wedding, and the double wedding.
Costs are discussed, and both the bride's and the groom's families' expenses are listed.
Sample invitations and announcements show correct form, wording, and addressing.
There are suggested menus for all budgets and tastes; there's advice on music, flowers, photographs, and clothes.
Diagrams show processionals, recessionals, and receiving lines in varying traditional and standard American orders.
A glossary defines all the meaningful Hebrew terms used. "
" One chapter is devoted to special situations such as intermarriages, second marriages due to death or divorce, and civil marriages.
There is advice on the correct and comfortable thing to do if parents are deceased or separated.
There's a note for attendants, and a chapter for guests - including non-Jewish ones - giving tips on synagogue manners and wedding gifts.
The final chapter has a word for "Mr. and Mrs." in their new home. "
" As a guide to wedding etiquette this book is superb, but it is even more - it is the story of a proud and rich and enduring heritage. "
Summary of Contents include:
I. THE ENGAGEMENT
II. PLANNING THE WEDDING
III. INVITATIONS AND ANNOUNCEMENTS
IV. THE WEDDING PARTY
V. THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY
VI. THE RECEPTION
VII. MUSIC, FLOWERS, AND PHOTOGRAPHS
VIII. RITUALS AND CUSTOMS
IX. SPECIAL SITUATIONS
X. A GUIDE FOR GUESTS
XI. MR. AND MRS.
Books for Further Reading ad Reference
This is apparently a library previously owned book with several library stamps, stickers and markings.
Otherwise, it is in pretty good condition.
No torn or ripped pages.
There is clear plastic on the dust jacket for protection which has some clear tape on the inside to keep it intact.